• People can feel like making a decision is difficult because it holds them accountable and responsible for the consequences of their decision and they don't want that ownership

  • Make tough decisions from a place of balance (not angry or scared), own it and ride with it, if you need to make adjustments do that too

  • Don't make decisions based on what other people will think or feel


My messages from the Seoul are quick affirmations, statements and suggestions to get you thinking and bring you out of your comfort zone sometimes. It is my hope that you’ll take what I’ve said and internalize it; carving out a space and move that aligns with who you are as an individual. I also realize that sometimes people want to dig deeper and develop a more concrete understanding of the ideas being presented. That’s why I like to follow up my messages with a brief breakdown of what I’m trying to convey to you, and ways I’ve utilized these concepts to grow personally and professionally.

There's a reason there are classes and courses on decision making; and that's because decisions can be intense depending on the circumstances. It's also a skill that is sought after in business and leaders. Regardless if you're a CEO or someone in a personal dilemma, the true weight of a decision is the consequence or residual affects of your decision. No one wants to make the 'wrong' decision because no one wants to take ownership for it. However, I feel like in a sense, decisions are what you make them and your ability to ride with whatever decision you make helps you better assess consequences and change course if your initial decision doesn't work out. I say this because there's no absolute right or wrong decision per se. There's right or off for you (or your company) at whatever given time.

One thing that I've learned through life experiences and meditation is to try and make decisions from a place of balance. If you're angry, at a low point, or even extremely happy your decisions are going to be skewed by your current state. But, for the most part we cycle through feelings and emotions and so although you are angry today you will eventually be less angry, and you won't want to deal with the negative consequences of decisions you made when you were fresh with all the anger and all the feels. When making decisions try to get to a place of balance, calm or peace enough to evaluate your situation and make the best decision at the time. Making decisions from a place of balance also allows you to clearly evaluate whether or not you'll need to make adjustments.

Lastly, don't make decisions based largely on what other people think or feel. Your personal decisions are about you, and your business decisions are about the mission, vision and objective of the business. When you allow others to sway your decisions, you give power to others over your life and/or business and career. You will be moving and doing things in accordance with what someone else wants or needs and not your own wants or needs. Own your choices and make the best decision for you or your business.


  • Decision making is difficult but you gotta ride with whatever you choose

  • Evaluate the consequences and residual affects of what you decide

  • Try to avoid making major decisions from an extreme place, find your balance

  • There are no wrong decisions, just things you may need to adjust

  • Don't make decisions based on what others think you should do

Kia ‘Seoul’ Riley works for Revolt TV and founded and runs the XXXV Collective that specializes in helping Creatives, Entrepreneurs and Artists (CEAs) pursue their passions. Her From the Seoul brand specializes in life coaching, business consulting and motivational speaking. Her new ebook The Neaux Renaissance is out now!!!

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